It is important that you are aware of the swingers’ code before you get too heavily into the scene. There are a few different things that are very important to the swinger scene. You will need to make sure that you understand what they are so that you can make good decisions and not get yourself or others into trouble.

Tricking Others

It is never a good idea to trick your partner into going to a swinger’s party. You will only make them uncomfortable most of the time. While some people may be okay with going to one it is always better to run it by them first. They may end up not being into the scene and getting very upset with you.

Protection

You should always use protection whenever you are a swinger. No matter how well you know the people that you swing with you should always use a condom. These people sleep with multiple people and the group that you see them with may not be the only group that they swing with. Always use protection to be a responsible swinger.

Honesty

If you have any type of STD then you should make sure that the others are made aware of it. You should never under any circumstance keep any type of STD from any of your partners. It is a good idea to get tested regularly. If you are able to get tested on a regular basis you will be able to catch any diseases that may come up a lot faster. This will allow for a faster treatment.

Staying healthy is important for everyone. For those who are sexually active, health should become a priority. There are plenty of ways to keep yourself healthy regardless of your sex life.

Use Condoms- Always

Condoms should never be negotiated. If you are having sex, a condom needs to be in the picture. This will drastically lessen the likelihood of getting an STD, and will reduce the risk of pregnancy as well.

Cleaning Toys

If you use toys, be sure to clean them well after each use. You can find special solutions at any adult toy shop for this. If you choose to clean them on your own, be sure you are using a soap that will disinfect and has been formulated to not cause irritation. Many people choose to clean latex in a dishwasher. This is fine as long as you are running it by itself with no dishes, and not using dish soap but a mild hand soap instead.

Avoid Cross Contamination

If you are involved with anal play, be sure the condom is changed or the toy is cleaned before moving on to vaginal applications. Even if it looks clean, microorganisms that are not seen can be hanging out, and going from anal to vaginal, or anal to oral, can create cross contaminating. This can lead to infections that are ugly and uncomfortable, not to mention an embarrassing doctors visit.

Get Tested

Even if you only have 1 sexual partner, you need to get tested regularly. For those who only have 1 partner, testing once a year is plenty. For those who have multiple partners, getting tested every 3 months is advised.

A swingers club is a great place for those who are trying out a new lifestyle to begin. While there are rules associated with clubs, there are also unwritten rules that are swingers are expected to follow. If you are unsure, or have never been to a club, here is an overview of how you are expected to behave.

No Pressure

You may really want to just jump in and have fun, but it can take some time before that happens. Many swingers want to talk to the couples they are involved with to get to know them. Some are just there scoping things out. No should always be respected, and you should never pressure your partner or anyone else to join in the activity.

Don’t Be Creepy

If you haven’t been invited to join in a room, simply don’t go. If there is a do not disturb sign on a door, understand that the people inside have chosen some privacy. If you aren’t going to join in any activity, hang out in the lounge area. This is a good place to meet people without looking creepy.

Respecting Others Partners

It’s a huge no-no to attempt to break up a marriage. You may not even realize this is what you are doing when you approach someone without their partner present. It is expected that both sides of the couple are approached, and the decision should be left up to both of them. Trying to recruit someone for your husband or wife can get you kicked out and banned from the club.

Have Fun!

Above all else, swinging should be an enjoyable experience. You may be nervous your first few visits, and this is normal. Try not to let it interfere with your fun though. If you need to go a few times and just hang out in the lounge until you are more comfortable, then so be it.

Places to find Clubs

Many Countries have clubs, here are the best places for Swinging Club listings and reviews;

UK Swinger Clubs
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Australian Swinger Clubs